A loving support team is critically important for survivors of abuse as they heal.
Abuse has a nasty habit of isolating its victims. Often, this happens because our abuser created fear inside of us that we would not be believed or, worse yet, that the abuse was our fault. In that isolation, lies our abuser told us grow what we believe to be true, even if they have no truth whatsoever. We begin to believe that we are worthless, dirty, unwanted, and worse. In milestone two, we start the process of breaking this isolation. We believe that all survivors can benefit from a team of supporters – cheerleaders, investors, and counselors. Milestone two evaluates how to grow these relationships, and yourself, along the healing journey.
Many abuse survivors benefit from the encouragement and resources in our online support groups. The group is designed so that survivors do not have to face the healing journey without support and encouragement. In our online forums, we divide the healing journey into 5 milestones. We believe that these milestones are important so that you don’t feel overwhelmed as you progress through the healing journey.
Many survivors want to be healed instantly. A milestone acknowledges that we are working in a major area of healing, but that there is usually more than one area of our life which has been impacted by abuse. As you complete milestones, we encourage you to celebrate. You are prioritizing your healing, and we hope you are seeing that your healing is extremely important.
Milestone Two – Partnerships on Your Healing Journey
Milestone 2 has four chapters. Chapters are topics which are part of healing milestone. In our online support groups for survivors of abuse, we encourage you to focus on no more than one chapter per week. Many of our members have found that a single chapter, may take them much longer than one week. The journey is individual. One specific topic may be extra challenging for you, while another is very simple.
The chapters in milestone one are:
- Chapter 3 – “Cheerleaders” – In chapter three we discuss how to establish a relationship with a cheerleader, or friend. We will discover the value of these relationships and the vulnerability they require.
- Chapter 4 – “In the Moment” – In this chapter, we will focus on “living in the moment” which is the intentional act of slowing down and allowing ourselves to physically, emotionally, intellectually, and spiritually experience the stimuli that exist in the places where we are located.
- Chapter 5 – “Investors” – In chapter five, we will discuss investors, which are mentors. The chapter will help you understand the role that an investor will play in your live, the type of investments they will make into your life, and how to process any advice they may offer you.
- Chapter 6 – “Counselors” – Chapter six encourages all survivors to pursue counseling. In this chapter, we will talk about how to find a good counselor, begin the counseling relationship, and mutually contribute with your counselor in your healing journey.
Click here to read about Milestone three. Click here to join our online support groups which are designed to encourage survivors of abuse. Click here to order a copy of the book Abuse Is Not My Story by Victoria Elise Michael.